Being a Mother….

 

Nothing in the world will be as joyful as seeing your own creation growing and you being the part of shaping their life. What a gift it is to be able to see them grow!

Its not easy to raise a child. It is full of mixed feelings. Your immediate family and friends could get very opinionated and judgmental about it. But your own style & ideas work best for your own. 

Your life always revolved around them and their happiness.

There are so many things, one can learn from your kids.

You learn to be loving and caring , and at the same time, to be strict.

They teach you to be more patient, more loving, and much more appreciative of every moment when we are together as a family.

The innocence….when your little one want to give a ‘BMW car’ as a birthday gift to his father…the only thing in their mind is to give the most desirable thing as a gift’. Only the pure mind can think about other’s happiness.

The unconditional love makes to overcome fears easily. I was dam scared of water. When my little one was 2, it was mandatory to accompany your kid to learn swimming. He used to sit at the corner watching others happily learning swimming with their mothers. And I took the first step & got down in water…stood at the same place for hours…then learnt swimming just to be with him. Now I enjoy swimming, snorkeling ,diving with him….what a joy!

If anytime you are getting frustrated with your kid. Just think about when they grow older & go for their higher education/profession….you already start missing them. Your frustration melts down in a moment. 

Even you are experiencing the hardest trials of life, motherhood gives you a joy.

You learn to rise to any occasion & found yourself lifted to new heights once put upon yourself, stretching beyond all the limits.

You experience an adventure mothering your child that ever imaginable.

Motherhood gives you an excuse to stay younger forever & enjoying love beyond measure.

Motherhood is my life, my joy, my passion, my greatest achievement.

The best parts of being mother is passing our rich culture and heritage to them in an intentional way, watching your kids evolve into empathetic, kind, smart human being.

If someone says, ‘ your kids look / are just like you’ ….you are on cloud nine.

We all enjoy revisiting the childhood through their experiences. They amaze us every moment with their new ideas and discoveries.

A mother is the superhero in a child’s life.

Sunrise !

 

 

 

It is darkest before the dawn.  Sunrises are the birth of a new day, a new beginning, and a new chance, a chance to let go of yesterday and start a new day, fresh and clean.

Night & day are determined by the Sun’s presence in the sky.

Witnessing sunrise is a glory in itself.

I believe in the sunrise. One needs to know the dark in order to appreciate the sun. The sun is what keeps us alive, it is what makes us happy.  

Its like a dream walking barefoot on the beach with someone whom you love to witness the sunrise.  Sand is so warm & welcoming.  Just sit on the rock at shore…meditate for a while & when you open your eyes, you see the divine sun rays staring at you.

I think we often spend time lingering on the darkness, thinking unnecessary things, instead of appreciating the sun (positive things) when it rises. Sunrise is a beautiful miracle of GOD that defeats the darkness & spread light.

Every sunrise is a new page of the book of your life, don’t let it stay blank. Let the morning sky shade be your favorite color.

Witness the sunrise…….start a day with positivity !

sunita: Taking care of self to help others!

sunita: Taking care of self to help others!: As a mother how many of you think that you take time to look after yourself ? ...I'm sure there are hardly few who do that. In our eff...

Taking care of self to help others!

As a mother how many of you think that you take time to look after yourself ? ...I'm sure there are hardly few who do that.
In our efforts to take care of  everyone around us, we mothers usually end up neglecting ourselves.
Being mother is no doubt a busy job. Still you need to take out some time for yourself. It might be anything from getting a haircut done, pampering yourself with facial, manicure, pedicure or reading your favorite book, singing or listening music, watching a movie without any disturbance etc.

Express your inner creativity. The great artist lies in everyone of us. You just have to recognize and express yourself. It can be very small thing or big thing, but it gives immense pleasure to see your own creativity. Make some origami flowers, paint pictures ( however you want!), knit beautiful scarves or make beautiful jewelry with beads. The list is endless.

Keeping a positive 'Body Image' is a healthy tool. Body image is not only how you look, but how strong you are from inside as well. Your children are watching  you. You should be always a good example to them.

There are simple ways to get it right.
If you are over weight ( obese), loose weight. I know that it is easy to say than do. But believe me if you start doing exercise, it grows on you. You don't have to spend money for it joining expensive fitness clubs. Start walking whenever you get time. Even going for shopping is kind of exercise only.
Swim when your kids are doing their swimming classes. Run with kids in playground and so on.

You always want your kids should eat healthy food. Why don't you follow the same for you. As much kids need nutrition, you need it too. Make interesting dishes with healthy organic food and enjoy them with your family. There is no need to buy expensive vitamin supplements.

The most important thing is 'sleeping right'. Consistent and quality sleep is the requirement for keeping you active throughout the day. Expert says that sleep during 10pm to 4 am is quality sleep. Make most of it to keep you healthy and fine.

Talk about yourself to close ones. It makes you feel light. Feeling of somebody cares for you keep you going.

Reward yourself if you achieve goals or something good happens because of your efforts. You can buy things which you like for yourself such as pair of shoes, nice dress or cosmetics.

It is very important recharging and refocusing to reconnect with your family.
Do you agree with me?

Making Waves

Let's be honest; we all secretly want our children to be 'best' at something. It's a natural urge. we always seek for comments like "she/ he is definitely the best."
 
Swimming is one of those things I feel that everyone should know how to do. It is such a huge recreation that to remove it from your options is a major disservice to you and your children.

I was a little slow getting my son into water. When we moved to Australia, seeing other kids doing water activities, I enrolled him for lessons at the local pool. It was then that my son's reluctance, or downright refusal, to get wet became evident. He was terrified. His screams when the instructor carried him into pool filled me with sadness and embarrassment. I noticed the sideways glances from parents whose own children jumped enthusiastically into the water while I pleaded with my son to at least dip a toe in.
Week after week I tried everything-applauding him, begging, bribing him-and sometimes getting angry.
At times I felt like giving up. Then one day, it happened. With the help of tube he started moving around and getting confident. He now doesn't want help. Jumping, playing has become a fun water activity for him.


The first thing one must understand with children and water is if you have a fear of the water, they will sense that and it will affect their ability to move forward. Let me say in here that it is vital that everyone respect the water and a certain amount of fear is not a bad thing. 
The earlier you can get a child in the water the better. You go along with child in water. If they already have a fear of the water you will want to make sure you go VERY slow in your progression. You want to start with splashing, and then build up to blowing bubbles. Don't push the child, but do it yourself so they can see what you are doing. If they go under water clap for them. Children respond greatly to our praise. They love the attention and they deserve it!

Overall for any fear that a child has the first thing you must do is take a serious look at why they have that fear. Is it a fear of the water? Is it an attention mechanism? Are they feeding off your fear? Once you know what it is use patience, understanding and A LOT of praise and they will overcome it!

After seeing my son swimming in water, i started taking swimming lessons to swim with him. And I'm loving it!!

Play in every land!

Play serves a multitude of roles in the development of children. It helps them learn their world naturally. Children use play to test ideas, discover relationships, abstract information, express their feeling and ideas, define themselves, and develop peer relationships.

Active players develop and accumulate their own knowledge about their world and their place in it.

Children should be able to do their own experimenting and their own research. Parents and teachers can guide them by providing appropriate material, but the essential thing is that child should understand, construct and re-invent it.

In play, the key word is "engaged." Children should be actively involved in play. The discoveries during play are going to remain life long with them.

Play, which allows children to choose their learning focus and which fosters a broad range of developmental goals, should be included as an essential learning element.  Play education affords teacher the opportunity to go with the natural flow of learning. It gives children freedom to learn without stress.

The Values of play:

Cognitive Development: Play is vital medium for thinking process and  contributes to cognitive growth by providing exposure, which enriches the thinking.
Play provides many opportunities for children to create , invent and design as they build, draw and dramatize. It develops their creativity, reasoning. They learn probabilities through their repeated observations and fairy make accurate predictions.

Social Development: Children learn to deal with their playmate's feelings and attitudes. They learn how to take turns, be patient, cooperate, share and make friendship.

Emotional Development : Play helps children to express their thoughts and feelings. Play helps to reduce anxiety.


Physical Development: Play Provides opportunity to develop fine and gross motor activities. They develop the concept of body size, which helps them to move through their space successfully.

Taking a risk!

There is trend where parents gave a blanket "NO" to their children who wanted to take risks such as walking on the wall, climbing trees, playing in puddles, sliding on high slides etc. They don't even think "why am I saying no? What is the issue, and is it really an issue?"

Some parents have irrational fears of ' stranger danger' and kids getting hurt have become dominant in their minds, that they no longer let their children push boundaries, or even play on their own at the local park.

The term 'Risk taking' often has a negative connotations, the reality is that the willingness to engage in some risky activities provides opportunities to learn new skills, try new behaviors and ultimately reach our potential.

Challenge and risk, in particular during outdoor play, allow children to test the limits of their physical, intellectual and social development.

The research also shown that kids who have adventurous experiences, where they move beyond their comfort zone, are the once more likely to excel. And not just physically- the ability to take sensible risks can have impact on academic and social success.

Some parents have dilemma to do these sorts of things. They want their children to do such activities. At the same time they have fear of to be deemed to be bad parents.

We have so many examples around us. The great maratha warier 'Shivaji' was allowed to take all sorts of risk in his young age. ( I don't mean by this that our kids to learn all those activities!)
Sachin Tendulkar, at very young age he started making records.

Children who are open to taking physical risks are more open to taking on challenges on other areas. They are happier, academically, to try the more difficult puzzles and tasks, and are more confident about entering unknown social groups.

' If you are used to deal with fear, you can deal with anything.'

All above doesn't mean that parents should just watch children doing things. They should give their children opportunity to take calculated risks, at the same time they should push their child a little.
Parents should find out your own child's capabilities, get then to move out of their comfort zone, not just physically, but socially.

If you help them doing things 2-3 times, they will be confident to do the same of their own, rather they will like to do it of their own. And then it will be hard to say who is PROUDER!